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A．There are many ways for parents to deal with the problems．
B．The mess can disturb the whole household．
C．Parents are all angry at it．
D．Humor can help，too．
E．Parenting experts also recommend that parents first ask children in a nice way to clean up and agree on a reasonable time limit．
F．What doesn't work，parenting experts say，is constant lectures，verbal threats or getting very angry． |
An 18-year-girl Kayla Perkins explains what is in her bedroom，"I throw something on the floor and I know right where it is．"However，her parents，Steve and Deborah Perkins，of Mckinney，Texas，haven't caught on．Even Kayla admits that，at the worst，her room is a mess．
Most families at some point have at least one child whose room looks like a landfill． （67）BDirty clothes pile up； dirty dishes get lost in the mess and smell bad； homework is lost； and valuable things are ruined．
Some parents let it go，believing that a bedroom is private space for children to manage as they wish．Others lecture their children，offer rewards for cleaning，or punish them when they don't．（68）F
Mrs．Perkins says they picked up all the clothes on Kayla's floor and hid them．They cleaned everything up．When Kayla came back to a bare bedroom，there was screaming and shouting，"How can I live without my clothes？"Mrs．Perkins asked Kayla to earn her clothes back by doing housework．These days，she keeps her room clean．
（69）D For example，since Jessica，the 14-year-old daughter wasn't bothered by the dirty clothes all over her floor，the whole family started using her room as a place to store dirty clothes．Her attitude changed after her family did that．By the time she gave in and cleaned up her room a few days later，even she was laughing．
（70）E Children often behave better if you treat them in the way you would want to be treated by your boss at work-with respect and high expectations．
