Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is otfen the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth, One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age……”Eighteen –year –old Kelly calls lectures “Long , one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”
Kids reflexively(條件反射地)shout down in the face of a lecture , Their eyes glaze over(呆滯),and they don’t register any incoming information , Listen to 13-year –old Sarah describe her least favorite times with her mom and dad, “First, they scream, Then comes the“We’re so disappointed’ speech , Then the ‘I never did that to my parents’ lecture begins , After that, even if they realize how ridiculous they sound, they never take it back’”.
Lines like “When you have children of your own, you’ll understand” have been seriously said by parents since time immemorial, But many of our expert parents, like Bobby , a registered nurse and mother of three, feel that by falling back on cliches(陳詞濫調(diào))to justify our actions, we weaken our position.
Since kids are creatures of here and now, the far-off future has no relevance to them, Therefore ,good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language:‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions(監(jiān)護)”。
Betty, who lives in Missouri ,uses and indirect approach, “I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about, My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information, Then they never think I’m preaching(布道)”.
This really helped when Betty’s kids began driving , Instead of constantly repeating “Don’t drink; don’t speed”, She would talk about articles in the paper and express sympathy for the victims of a car crash, Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation, She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions—especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them

  1. 1.

    The purpose of the passage is to      

    1. A.
      compare two ways of parents’ communicating with their kids
    2. B.
      give parents advice on how to communicate with their kids
    3. C.
      explain why kids won’t listen to their parents
    4. D.
      introduce kids’ reaction to the communication between them and their parents
  2. 2.

    Which of the following statements is NOT right?

    1. A.
      Kids won’t listen to their parents because they think what their parents say is boring
    2. B.
      Many kids think they have no right to express their own opinions
    3. C.
      Some kids think their parents should apologize when they are wrong
    4. D.
      Kids don’t like any discussion at all
  3. 3.

    What does the underlined word in the first paragraph mean?

    1. A.
      獨白
    2. B.
      對話
    3. C.
      插話
    4. D.
      討論
  4. 4.

    Which of the following topic may appeal to kids?

    1. A.
      Parents own experience
    2. B.
      Kids possible life in the future
    3. C.
      Something related to kids’ present life
    4. D.
      What parents have done to their own parents
  5. 5.

    In order to make kids follow their advice, parents should      

    1. A.
      tell their kids to listen carefully
    2. B.
      set out their warnings directly
    3. C.
      list out as many examples as possible
    4. D.
      arouse kids’ desire to express themselves
BDACD
試題分析:文章主要講了父母對孩子談話需要注意的事項,他們常會說一些讓孩子認為無趣的陳詞濫調(diào),而孩子也無法完全接受需要傳達的信息。
1.主旨大意題。文章主要是給家長一些可行的交流建議,讓他們在與孩子談話時能取得理想的成果,所以選B
2.細節(jié)題。D項說孩子不喜歡任何形式的談話過于絕對,是不正確的,ABC項都能在文中找到根據(jù),所以選D
3.詞義理解題。根據(jù)上下文,這里的名詞monologue強調(diào)的是只有家長一方在說話的狀態(tài),所以是獨白,選擇A
4.細節(jié)題。根據(jù)文章第五段I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about,可知孩子更能接受與他們現(xiàn)實生活有關(guān)的話題,所以選C
5.細節(jié)題。根據(jù)文章最后一段She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions—especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them ,可知最有用的交流方法是讓孩子想要抒發(fā)自己的感想,所以選D
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