Because conflict and disagreements are part of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict in a healthy and constructive way. Some couples just__50__ and deny the presence of any conflict in a relationship. __51__ ,denying the existence of conflict results in couples _52___ to solve their problems at early__53__ ,which can then lead to even greater problems later on .Not surprisingly, expressing anger and disagreement leads to lower marital (婚姻的)satisfaction at the beginning. However, this pattern of behavior _54___ increases in marital satisfaction over time. Research suggests that working through conflicts is an important predictor of marital satisfaction.
　　So, what can you do to manage conflict in your own relationships? First, try to understand the other person’s point of view__55__ put yourself in his of her place. People who are _56___ to what their partner thinks and feels _57___ greater relationship satisfaction. For example, researchers found that among people in dating relationships  58____ marriages, those who can adopt their partner’s perspective show more positive emotions, more relationship-enhancing attributes and more constructive responses _59___ conflict.
　　Second, because conflict and disagreements are an __60__ part of close relationships，people need to be able to apologize to their partner for wrongdoing and __61__ forgiveness from their partners for their own acts. Apologies minimize conflict, lead to forgiveness, and serve to restore relationship closeness. In line with this view, spouses（配偶） who are more forgiving show higher mental quality over time. Increasingly, apologizing can even have _62___ health benefits. For example, when people reflect on hurtful __63__ and grudges(怨恨)，they show negative physiological(生理的) effects, including __64__  heart rate and blood pressure, compared to when they reflect on sympathetic perspective-taking and forgiving.

When I was in primary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I can't   16  what it was about, but I have never forgotten the   17  I learned that day.
I was   18  that I was right and he was wrong — and he was sure that I was wrong and he was right. The  19 decided to teach us a very important lesson. She  20 both of us up to the   21  of the class and   22  him on one side of her desk and me on   23 . In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could   24  see that it was black. She asked the boy what   25  the object was. "White," he answered.
I couldn't believe he said the object was white,  26 it was obviously black! Another  27  started between my classmate and me, this   28   about the color of the object.
The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed   29  , and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I   30  answer, "White." It was an object with two   31  colored sides, and from his side it was white.   32  from my side was it black.
My teacher taught me a very important lesson that day: You must   33  in the other person's shoes and look at the   34  through their eyes in order to   35  understand their view.

Directions: For each blank in the passage there are four words or phrases marked A, B, C and D. Fill in each blank with the word or phrase that best fits the context.
Many years ago I was on a bicycle trip through some exceedingly picturesque (如畫(huà)的) countryside. Suddenly, dark clouds piled up overhead and rain began to fall, but strange to ___50___, several hundred yards ahead of me the sun shone brilliantly. Riding, however, as rapidly as I could, I found it ___51___ to get into the clear. The clouds with their rain kept advancing faster than I could race forward. I continued this unequal contest for an exhausting half hour, ___52___ realizing that I could not win my way to the bright area ahead of me.
Then it dawned upon me that I was wasting my strength in unimportant hurry, while paying no attention whatsoever to the landscape ___53___ which I was making the trip. The storm could not last forever and the discomfort was not unendurable. Indeed, there was much to look at which might ___54___ have escaped me. As I gazed about with sharpened ___55___, I saw colours and lines and shapes that would have appeared differently under brilliant light. The rain mists (薄霧) which now ___56___ the wooded hills and the fresh clearness of the different greens were entrancing (迷人的). My annoyance at the rain was gone and my eagerness to ___57___ it disappeared. It had provided me with a new view and helped me understand that the ___58___ of beauty and satisfaction may be found close at hand within the ___59___ of one’s own sensibilities.
It made me think, then and later, about other matters to which this incident was related. It helped me realize that there is no sense in my ___60___ ever to flee from circumstances and conditions which cannot be avoided but which I might bravely ___61___ and frequently mend and often turn to good account. I know that half the battle is won if I can face trouble with courage, __62__ with spirit, and triumph with humility. It has become ever clearer to me that danger is far from disaster, that defeat may be the forerunner of final ___63___, and that, in the last analysis, all achievement is dangerously weak ___64___ based on enduring principles of moral conduct.

How often do you let other people’s nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, impolite waiter，rude boss, or an insensitive employee  1  your day?
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City taxi cab. One day I was in a taxi and we headed   2  the airport. We were driving in the  3  lane when suddenly a black car drove out of a parking space right in front of us.  My taxi driver slammed on his  4, slide sideways，and at the very last moment our car stopped and  5  the other car by just inches！The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, looked around and started  6  at us.
My taxi driver just  7 and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was  8, so I said，"Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital！” This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call "The Law of the Garbage Truck".
He said, “Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of 9 full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage  10  up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on 11 .  Don’t take it personally; Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Believe me. You’ll be  12 .”
So I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and  13  it to other people at work, at home, or on the street? It was then that I said, “I don’t want their garbage and I’m not going to spread it anymore.”
Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with 14 . The mark of your success is how quickly you can refocus on what’s 15  in your life. See, Roy Baumeister, a psychology researcher from Florida State University，found in his extensive research that you __16  bad things more often than good things in your life. You store the bad memories more easily, and you __17  them more frequently. So love the people who treat you right. Ignore the ones who don’t. Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you _18  it！The odds are against you when a Garbage Truck comes your way, but when you follow “The Law of the Garbage Truck”，you take back control of your life. You make room for the good by  19 go of the bad.
Have a Garbage-Free Day！Have a marvelous, garbage-free day！The seeds you plant today  20  the harvest you reap tomorrow.

I recently heard a story about a famous scientist who had made several very important medical breakthroughs（突破）. He was being interviewed by a reporter who asked him    1   he thought he was able to be so much more    2   than the average person.
He responded that it all came from a(n)   3   with his mother that occurred when he was about 2. He had been trying to   4  milk from the fridge when he    5   the slippery(光滑的) bottle, its contents running all over the kitchen floor.
When his mother came in,    6   shouting at him or giving him a lecture, she said, “Robert, what a great and wonderful    7   you have made! I have    8   seen such a huge pool of milk. Well, the damage has already been    9  . Would you like to get down and    10   in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?”
Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, “Robert, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to restore everything to its proper order. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge(海綿), a towel or a mop. Which do you prefer?” He chose the sponge.
His mother then said, “ You know, what we have here is a    11  experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two    12   hands. Let’s go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water and see if you can   13 .” The little boy learned that if he    14   the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands, he could carry it without dropping it. What a wonderful    15  !
This scientist then said that it was at that moment that he knew he didn’t need to be    16  to make mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were just    17   for learning something new, which is,    18  , what scientific experiments are all about. Even if the experiment “doesn't   19 ,” we usually learn something    20   from it.

Last week, I took a sales class for female business owners. The     36   thing the instructor did was ask if anyone had been the victim of a     37   sales experience. Every person in the room    38   her hand.
When she knew details, we learned that the     39   situations had one thing in common. It     40   that whenever a class member had a bad sales experience, it involved the     41   promising something he wouldn’t or couldn’t deliver.
The example I     42  with the class was a current one. I bought a summer membership at our community pool     43   because it advertised a lovely baby pool to which I could escape with my active one and four year-olds. However, every time I’ve used the pool this summer, the baby area has been     44   . Too much chlorine（氯氣）,    45   one manager.
I’m sure the pool director was very apologetic that his     46   had been inconvenienced, and that’s nice, but the     47   is that I did not get what I paid for. When the baby pool was closed, I had to swim with my     48   in the adult pool, which did not     49   me the control I wanted and as such, was quite stressful. I would have rather stayed home.
The pool has     50  a customer. I will not be buying a pass next summer.
In work and in life, it is really important not to     51   something you can’t deliver, because at best, it will improve your   52    . At worse, you could lose your job.    53   , before you assure a co-worker or customer that you can get something done, make sure that your boss or someone higher-up isn’t going to step in and force you to     54   your plan. You are not God, so don’t lead people to believe that you     55  the universe.

It was a busy morning，about 8:30,when an elderly gentleman in his 80s came to the hospital .I heard him saying to the nurse that he was in a hurry for all appointment(約會(huì))at 9:30
The nurse had him take a    36   in the waiting area,    37   him it would be at least 40 Minutes    38   someone would be able to see him I saw him    39   his watch and decided， since I was    40   busy—my patient didn’t    41   at the appointed hour, I would examine his wound .While taking care of his wound．I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment
The gentleman said no and told me that he    42   to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his    43  . He told me that she had been    44   for a while and that she had a special disease I asked if she would be   45   if he was a bit late. He replied that she   46  knew who he was，that she had not been able to    47   him for five years now. I was    48 , and asked him，“And you    49   go every morning，even though she doesn’t know who you are?”
He smiled and said．“She doesn’t know me but I know who she is” I had to hold back    50  as he left.
Now I    51   that in marriages，true love is    52   of all that is The happiest people don’t   53   have the best of everything；they just    54   the best of everything they have   55   isn’t  about how to live through the storm，but how to dance in the rain.
【小題1】A breath       B.test      C seat      D break
【小題2】A persuading       B promising    C understanding     D telling
【小題3】A if      B before  C since    D after
【小題4】A taking off B．fixing       C looking at    D winding
【小題5】A very  B also     C seldom D not
【小題6】A turn up     B show off     C come on      D go away
【小題7】A needed      B forgot  C agreed  D happened
【小題8】A daughter   B wife     C mother D sister
【小題9】A. late  B well     C around D.there
【小題10】A lonely     B worried       C doubtful      D hungry
【小題11】A so far      B neither C no longer    D already
【小題12】A recognize       B answer C believe D expect
【小題13】A moved    B disappointed       C surprised     D satisfied
【小題14】A only       B.then     C.thus     D still
【小題15】A curiosity B tears    C words  D judgment
【小題16】A realize    B suggest C hope    D prove
【小題17】A agreement      B expression   C acceptance   D exhibition
【小題18】A necessarily     B completely  C．naturally   D frequently
【小題19】A. learn     B make   C.favor   D.try
【小題20】A Adventure      B Beauty C Trust    D Life

The sun shines brightly as I leave school, get into my car, and head for Bradley Hospital. This year, as a senior at Seekonk High School, I have been given the opportunity to leave the usual classroom setting once a week to volunteer.
I   1  to spend this valuable time working with mentally disabled children at Bradley Children’s Hospital. I work   2  a teacher in the outpatient/pre-school section, in a classroom with two children— a classroom very different from   3  I have ever known. The difference of this classroom is   4  the children have been diagnosed with a mental disease. One child is autistic and non-verbal（自閉和不說(shuō)話的）, using supportive   5 . The other has a condition called PDD (one step above autism), and is   6  non-verbal. Both childrenrequire strong   7  and a lot of attention. This combination creates an atmosphere which is both demanding and sympathetic.
My   8  in the classroom is not only to help the teacher, but to become part of the children’s   9  experience. I work one-on-one completing academics with a student.   10 , we work as a group on such activities as cooking, artwork, abstract reasoning. Everyday activities, which may be taken for granted by others,   11  a lot of strength from the children. This has opened my eyes vastly.
One of the   12  reasons why I volunteer to take the work is that I desire to help those who are less   13 . However, it has also helped me to realize my competence. I now know that I have the   14  to work with the disabled. I have lost my fear, and I   15  myself a lot more.
It is true that my work is very   16 ; there are many days that I   17  Bradley exhausted emotionally and physically. There have been times when I have left on the edge of tears   18 . But pity doesn’t heal, love does. And I have grown to love these children in my own way,   19  I see them only once a week. This experience has been both rewarding and satisfying. I’ve learned also that I do have the ability to make a difference in their lives, no matter how small it may be. One smile makes it all   20 .

I can still remember the first day when I met my best friend. She had just moved into the neighborhood and her grandmother brought her down to 1   me. I hid behind my mother and she hid behind her grandmother,  2  to look at each other. Soon, we lost the shyness and started playing with each other. In 7^th grade, I first lost 3   with her. She was  4   family problems and I deserted her.  5   of my new friends liked her 6  they knew she had “problems”.
It was last year when I noticed the 7  . I guess I was just to catch up in high school to realize she 8  someone there for her. I didn’t know 9, but she started cutting herself!
She was 10  from clinical depression(抑郁), and had to go to a 11  during the day. I was very upset at first but with the late night 12 , and meeting each other at midnight. I wanted to be there for her since her new best friend once 13  her since people were calling her crazy.
Yesterday she came to me and said this:“I never knew what a best friend was 14  you were the only person that would 15 me from cutting; the only person that ever made me feel better about myself and my problems. You don’t know this but I was trying to 16  myself that night you called me. You didn’t even know you were 17  me. I owe you so much.”
We both cried. And I guess a kind of 18  from my life is:“never give up on your friends”. Even if they aren’t as cool as others, or people think they are 19 , they need someone there. If you desert them, you will only be 20  yourself. So if a friend needs you, and you care for them, you can never desert them.

This is a story that can teach us a good lesson. One day, a man in rags begged from door to door along the street. With an old wallet in his hand, he was asking for a few coins to buy something to eat. He kept complaining about his bad fortune and kept  36 why those who had so much money were never  37 and were always desiring more.
“As far as I’m concerned, if I had only enough to  38 and to wear, I would not want anything more.”
Just at that moment Goddess Fortune, who came down the  39 saw the beggar and said to him, “Hi, I have wished to  40 you for a long time. Now, open your  41  and I will pour my gold into it. But I will do that only on this  42 : All that falls into the wallet will be pure gold; but every piece falling upon the  43 shall become dust. Do you understand?
“I see,” said the beggar.
“Then you should  44 ! It’s obvious that your wallet is a(an)  45 one, so don’t load it too heavily,” said the Goddess Fortune.
The excited beggar could hardly  46 to have gold. He quickly opened his wallet, and a   47 of yellow coins was poured into it. The wallet grew heavier and heavier.
“Is that enough?” Isn’t it cracking?” asked Fortune.
“Never fear. It’s still  48 enough now.” answered the beggar.
The wallet was filled with so many coins that the beggar’s hands began to  49  . “Ah, if only the golden stream would  50 forever! Just a little more,” said the beggar, “ 51 just a handful or two.”
“There! It’s full. The wallet will  52 .” warned the Goddess, but the beggar requested, “It will  53 a little more, just a little more.”
One more piece was added and the wallet split. The  54 fell upon the ground and became dust. The greedy beggar had now  55 but his broken bag.