Question

Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no”.
A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.
Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.
Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.
“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”
The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.
In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.
But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.
Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I’ll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”
Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One needs to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”[
When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.
【小題1】Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.[

A．they don’t care about their own interests and feelings

B．they don’t know they will regret afterwards

C．they have already been used to saying “yes”

D．they care more about others’ affection

【小題2】In the opinion of experts, _________ .

A．people need a lot of practice to say “no”

B．people should say “yes” to keep the peace

C．saying “no” means losing a job

D．people have the right to be liked

【小題3】According to the writer, what should you do if you want to refuse the other person’s request?

A．Just say you can’t help him.

B．Say sorry to him.

C．Refuse him clearly.

D．Talk to the other person to find a mutual way.

【小題4】According to the writer, what should you do if your refusal is not accepted?

A．Say yes to him.	B．Repeat your reason for his acceptance
C．Just go away	D．Say no to him

【小題5】What is the best title of the passage?

A．You Need Courage To Say “No”	B．“Yes” More Than “No”
C．Nobody Has the Right To Say “No”	D．It’s Easy To Say “Yes”

Answer 1

【小題1】D
【小題2】A
【小題3】D
【小題4】B
【小題5】A

解析試題分析：本文敘述了一般情況下，其他的人向你尋求幫助時(shí)，你如果感覺這樣做不對(duì)，也不符合自己的想法，但是還是說(shuō)了可以，心理專家提醒要有勇氣說(shuō)出自己的想法，敢于說(shuō)不，當(dāng)別人不能接受你的拒絕時(shí)，要說(shuō)一些對(duì)方能夠接受你的理由。
【小題1】細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)第五段“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”及Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I’ll lose the affection of the person.人們說(shuō)“yes”是怕影響之間的感情，不敢表達(dá)出真實(shí)的想法，故選D。
【小題2】細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.說(shuō)不需要勇氣，故選A。
【小題3】細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)倒數(shù)第二段Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution.可知需要找到一個(gè)解決的方法，故選D。
【小題4】細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)最后一段When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.要陳述他能接受的理由，故選B。
【小題5】標(biāo)題歸納題。根據(jù)全文的內(nèi)容可知我們要有勇氣給別人說(shuō)不，故選A。
考點(diǎn)：人生百味類短文閱讀。