14.People are quite sensitive by nature,but only a few of us actually"show it."The reason why we usually prefer to keep things to ourselves is that we are scared that others may judge us or consider us weak.However,sometimes it is necessary to open up and be honest and direct about your struggles-you cannot get help from others unless you let them know that you need it,and that is usually the most difficult part,since it takes a lot of courage.Here are some tips on finding the courage to open up.
The first and perhaps most important step toward finding the courage you need to open up is to know what your emotion is.You will need to explain your feelings and emotions to the person you are opening up to,and it's truly challenging to name the emotion that you feel deep inside.If you are able to do that,you will see that other people will find it a lot easier to understand and accept the things you have to say.We connect with others through emotions and language.
Another important thing you need to do is to spend more time with other people.Not only will you feel more familiar with them,but you will also learn their reactions,making it a lot easier to find common ground.People react differently to unusual or even shocking news,and when you spend more time with the one who is about to receive the news,you will create an emotional and mental connection with them,meaning that it will be slightly more difficult for them to react negatively.
People are not mind-readers,and we all know how complex the human mind and emotions can get.Not even those who have been close to you for decades are able to know what's going on in your mind,and you should never expect them to be able to.Nobody knows for sure what you want,and only a few people are even curious to find out.Share your experiences,emotions,desires and plans with the other person,rather than waiting for them to guess what is happening deep inside you.
The final tip is to simply relax.It often happens that we create worst possible situations deep inside our minds-situations that remain there most of the time,while the reality is totally different.Make sure never try to assume the feelings,thoughts or emotions of other people-you may be terribly wrong.Let them speak for themselves before drawing any conclusions!
These are the most important tips to carefully consider before opening up to someone about a serious emotional matter.
(81)Tips on Finding the Courage to Open Up |
Introduction | ●We seldom show that we are sensitive,because we don't want to be (82)judgedor considered weak. ●Open up and be honest and direct about your struggles,(83)or\otherwise you cannot get help from others. |
Tips | Know what you're feeling | (84)Name the emotion that is deep inside you,and other people will find it a lot easier to understand and accept what you have to say. |
Spend more time together | ●Spend more time with other people,and you will not only feel more (85)familiar with them,but you will also learn their reactions and find common ground more easily. ●Connect with them emotionally and mentally,which helps them react positively. |
Never expect anyone to (86)read your mind | No matter how (87)close they are to you,they can never figure out what is happening in your mind. |
(88)Relax | ●The reality is totally (89)diifferent from the worst situations you have imagined. ●It is unwise of you to assume others'feelings,thoughts or emotions-let them speak for themselves,instead. |
Conclusion | You should take these tips into (90)carefulconsideration before opening up to someone. |